Be Aware, Take Care

We’re nearing the end of Mental Health Awareness Month. One of the things I’ve read and heard from multiple sources is the idea that our culture has pathologized normal human experiences in many ways, and the church is not immune from such perceptions. We know we live in a fallen world with broken bodies. Yet instead of accepting that fact and finding ways to cope with our own brokenness and support others in their brokenness, we look for diagnoses and treatments that will take away anything that we think is less than ideal. The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM) has grown from 130 pages in its first edition to almost 1000 pages in the fifth edition. Normal experiences of grief, anxiety, or just being a little different from your peers are now seen as something that needs to be fixed.

I’m not saying that mental illness doesn’t exist. I know it does because I take medication for it every day. (I will say that the medication doesn’t remove the problem, it just makes it more bearable.) I also know that God uses all kinds of difficult experiences to draw people closer to Him. I’m regularly reminded that my weakness is meant to make me rely on His strength; my sorrow presses me to go to Him for comfort; my anxieties cause me to pray for His guidance and provision; and my quirky way of seeing things allows me to serve God in ways that others can’t.

A couple podcasts I’ve listened to recently have brought out good points. One said that the rise of “helicopter parents,” who try to protect their kids from any kind of adversity, has produced a generation of young people who don’t know how to cope with normal life. Another pointed out how Christians take verses like Philippians 4:6, “Do not be anxious about anything,” out of context and beat people over the head with it for their “sinful” lack of faith. Many Christians have adopted a type of health and wealth gospel that says if you just have enough faith you’ll never have any anxiety or sorrow, and you can go through life with a smile on your face at all times. That simply isn’t true, because that is not the world we live in.

Jesus Himself was “a man of sorrows and acquainted with grief” (Is. 53:3), and He sweat drops of blood in Gethsemane as He knew what was ahead for Him (Luke 22:44). I heard someone say that if we could have seen Jesus’ face as He told His disciples “Do not be anxious about tomorrow” (Matt. 6:34), we would know that this was not a harsh command to be obeyed, but a gentle, loving reminder that God is in control. I was reading one resource that was trying to make the point that depression is not always a result of sin, but they went on to heap guilt on those who “refuse to take the necessary steps to find healing in your life” (supposedly based on James 4:17). Such a statement is not in line with the gentle correction that comes from those who love God and love one another.

One podcast from Russell Moore and Curtis Chang urges us to use our feelings of anxiety as a pointer to what things we fear losing in the future, so we can learn to give those to God. Sometimes we allow anxiety about the future or regret and sorrow about the past to keep us from living well in the present. Sometimes we need help through medication and counseling to be able to better handle the things God allows to come into our lives. Those can be part of God’s common means of grace in this broken world.

If those in the church were more willing to talk about their struggles with anxiety, depression, feeling out of place, and yes, even sin, perhaps we’d all become better at encouraging and supporting those who need a listening ear or a hug. We were never meant to go through this life alone, nor to stoically pretend that everything is sunshine and flowers all the time. (There’s also poison ivy, which I’m also taking medication for!)

May we be the hands and arms and eyes and ears of Christ for those in need.

“For everything there is a season... a time to weep, and a time to laugh, and time to mourn, and a time to dance... a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; a time to seek, and a time to lose... a time to keep silence, and a time to speak...” (Eccl. 3:1-8).

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© 2023 Dawn Rutan. Unless otherwise indicated, all Scripture are ESV and all images copyright free from pixabay.com. The opinions stated do not necessarily reflect the views of my church or employer.

Imperfect Peace

In the sermon last Sunday at our church, we were asked, “What is one promise of God that, if you really believed it, would make a huge difference in your life?” Almost immediately the passage that came to my mind was Philippians 4:6-7 (ESV),

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made know to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

Not too surprisingly, the message I listened to on Truth For Life that afternoon was based on 1 Peter 5:6-7,

“Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time He may exalt you, casting all your anxieties on Him, because He cares for you.”

I’m sure I’m not the only one who would say that the promise of the peace of God is one that we want to believe but often don’t. We do one of two things—we hold onto the situation and worry over it like a dog with a bone, or we give it to God but keep retrieving it from Him. It feels easier to keep worrying about the problem than to trust that God will take care of it in His own perfect way and time.

I was reminded of a hymn by Advent Christian author Francis A. Blackmer. It’s one that I dislike because I think it paints an unrealistic picture of the Christian life. The first two verses say:

Once I thought I walked with Jesus, yet such changeful feelings had,
Sometimes trusting, sometimes doubting, sometimes joyful, sometimes sad.

But He called me closer to Him, bade my doubts and fears all cease,
And when I had fully yielded, filled my soul with perfect peace.

Refrain: O the peace my Savior gives, peace I never knew before!
And my way has brighter grown since I learned to trust Him more.

That’s a nice thought, but I don’t think anyone consistently experiences “perfect peace” for the duration of their Christian life, and a lack of peace is not necessarily an indicator that one is not walking with Jesus. As Alistair Begg commented, “Any of us this morning who were prepared to say that we are not anxious at any point in our lives are probably in need of some significant help.” Anxiety is a normal part of our experience. (Hence CCEF is hosting a national conference on “Anxiety and the God of Peace” this week). However, it should not be an overwhelming and unchanging experience for the Christian. We have a God who loves us and who cares for all the details of our lives. He knows our needs better than we do ourselves, and He alone is sovereign over all the aspects of our lives. We can throw our anxieties on His back and stop carrying them ourselves. And we can keep bringing them back to Him every time we realize we’ve picked them up again—day by day, hour by hour, or minute by minute.

“You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You” (Isaiah 26:3). We lack perfect peace because we don’t (and can’t) keep our minds focused on God at all times. We are easily distracted by events, circumstances, people, and busyness, but God is always faithful even when we forget. His peace is available each time we remember to turn our attention back to Him.

“Cast your burden on the Lord, and He will sustain you; He will never permit the righteous to be moved” (Psalm 55:22).

© 2019 Dawn Rutan. Unless otherwise indicated all images are copyright free from pixabay.com. The opinions stated do not necessarily reflect the views of my church or employer.

Running Scared

I’ve been reading Ed Welch’s book Running Scared, which seems pretty relevant to where I find myself these days. The following are several quotes that caught my attention, along with a few of my own thoughts.

“There was a time when the biblical commands ‘Do not worry’ and ‘Do not be afraid’ put a quick end to hopes that there was anything attractive to say to fearful people. It seemed as if the biblical counsel was ‘The law says don’t fear, so don’t. End of story.’ But there are at least two different ways to say ‘Don’t worry.’ One is a judicial warning, which has a threatening overtone; the other is a parental encouragement, which aims to comfort. Scripture has both, but Luke placed the accent on parental encouragement [in Luke 12:22-34]” (9-10).

I don’t think this is a thing of the past. It seems very much alive today. I agree that the overall tone of the biblical narrative regarding fear is encouragement, not condemnation.

 “There are, of course, treatments for fears and anxieties. Medication dulls the physical symptoms, psychological treatments address the thoughts. If you are afraid to fly because you keep thinking the place will crash, you can replace that thought with another. I’ve flown many times before and nothing has happened. It’s the safest way to travel. This might help, but it rests on the premise that fear submits to logic, which is a dubious assumption. In reality, fears are rarely logical. Or, as fearful people might protest, they are very logical. If the statistics on plane crashes indicate that they are extremely rare, the statistics also say that planes do crash and people actually die in plane crashes. Someone is going to be that 1 in 100,000” (23-24).

“As worry veers out of control, cool heads try to help. First, they state the obvious: Worry doesn’t help. Second, they add that worry has more in common with astrology than it does careful weather forecasts. Then, if nothing else works, helpers try to assuage the worrier by making the environment more secure, if possible… It takes something more powerful than logic and statistical probabilities to assuage our fears and anxieties” (52-53).

The supra-rationality of fear is one of the most aggravating things about it. There is no logic that will automatically calm fears. Thus we try to control the uncontrollable.

“Behind this desire for control is the gnawing awareness that we are merely human… by design we are limited and we know it. No matter how much we rail against our dependency on other people, we really are dependent people with limited control… Since independence only works during the really good times, the obvious answer would be to seek God. The problem is that God, the One in control, does not seem to exert much control. Trust him or not, bad things will happen” (40-41).

If faith in God guaranteed immunity from difficulty, we’d have no problem sharing the gospel and convincing people to follow Him.

 “[Is it] wrong to be afraid? Is it sinful? Maybe, but put those questions on hold. The emphasis in Scripture is, ‘When I am afraid, I will trust in you’ (Ps. 56:3). The issue isn’t so much whether or not we are afraid and worry. Scripture assumes that we will be afraid and anxious at times. What is important is where we turn, or to whom we turn when we are afraid. The God who calls you to trust in him when you are afraid will spend a great deal of time showing you that you can trust him” (69).

So we return to the basics: God is faithful, He loves us dearly, He knows what we’re going through, He is with us in every situation, and He will help us endure whatever He allows to come our way.

“Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchman stays awake in vain. It is in vain that you rise up early and go late to rest, eating the bread of anxious toil; for He gives to His beloved sleep” (Psalm 127:1b-2).

© 2019 Dawn Rutan. Unless otherwise indicated all images are copyright free from pixabay.com. The opinions stated do not necessarily reflect the views of my church or employer.

Anxious for Nothing?

Multiple times lately I’ve been frustrated by the things I see written by pastors and Christian authors on the subject of anxiety. It usually goes something like this: Jesus commanded in Matthew 6:25, “Do not be anxious” and Paul repeats that command in Philippians 4:6. Therefore, when we are anxious we are exhibiting a lack of faith and are sinning by breaking that command. While there is a measure truth there, I think many authors overstate the case. In part, I think that is due to the wide variety of experiences that are referred to by the word “anxiety” both scripturally and in our lives today.

I noticed this week another comment that Paul made in Philippians 2:28 (ESV) regarding Epaphroditus: “I am the more eager to send him, therefore, that you may rejoice at seeing him again, and that I may be less anxious.” In addition, Paul said in 2 Corinthians 11:28, “And, apart from other things, there is the daily pressure on me of my anxiety for all the churches.” Should this then be interpreted as Paul confession his sin and repenting of his anxiety? I don’t think so. There is no indication of that being the case.

Even when Jesus spoke to Martha in Luke 10:41-42, He didn’t tell her she needed to repent. He said, “You are anxious and troubled about many things, but one thing is necessary. Mary has chosen the good portion, which will not be taken away from her.” It was a gentle correction, not condemnation. Likewise, when ministering to people who are anxious for whatever reason, it is not helpful to tell them “You’re sinning and need to repent.” Nor is it helpful to say, “You just need to trust God.” Throwing cliches at the person does not fix anything, and in fact may contribute to greater anxieties about lack of faith.

Anxieties, fears, and concerns exist for a reason. God made us with natural physical, mental, and emotional responses to danger in order protect ourselves. He also gave us logical minds to help us plan for the future and think through how we should respond to potential circumstances. However, in a fallen world, our bodies and minds do not always function as they should, and our responses are often out of proportion to reality. Some of our responses to anxiety can be sinful and do need to be confessed and changed, but many others need simple encouragement and counsel to deal with the sources of anxiety and to learn better coping methods.

This has really hit home with me lately as I’ve coped with the fallout of watching my house be broken into before Christmas. The lingering fears are greater than logic would justify. Though steps for greater home security have been implemented at my house, nothing can totally eliminate the anxiety. In no way do I believe my anxiety is sinful or reflects any lack of faith. I know God is in control and He is with me in every situation, and I trust Him to take care of me. (Incidentally, PTSD is not limited to military personnel and has a wide variety of causes, symptoms, and intensities.)

As I shared with my pastor recently, faith is worked out and grows through testing. None of us have perfect faith yet. In my opinion, anxiety is an opportunity to grow in faith in the midst of painful and divided thoughts and emotions. God can and will use difficult events and circumstances to develop our faith and teach us to depend on Him more fully one day at a time.

“This is my comfort in my affliction, that Your promise gives me life” (Psalm 119:50).

Text and photo © 2019 Dawn Rutan. The opinions stated do not necessarily reflect the views of my church or employer.

A Furry Lesson

I met a furry little friend several days ago and named him (or her) Squirrel Nutkin. I believe he must have fallen from his nest and been injured. He holds his head at an angle and stumbles and falls when he tries to walk. I doubt he’ll be able to climb trees. So I worried about him and I prayed for him. When I first saw him, he stayed in one place for about an hour and I went out to check on him periodically. The last time I looked he was gone, and I didn’t know whether his mama took him back to the nest or if the local hawk found a snack. But then two days later I found him again, and again he stayed in one place for a long time and even took a nap on the ground. When I went back to see if he needed a warmer shelter for the night or a supply of sunflower seeds to sustain him, he was gone again. At this point I’m assuming that his mama is still watching after him.

After that encounter, I was reading a book that cited Psalm 147:9 (ESV): “He gives to the beasts their food, and to the young ravens that cry.” That verse led me on to Matthew 10:29-31, “Are not five sparrows sold for a penny? And not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your Father… Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows.” I was convicted on several counts:

1) Why am I anxious over the fate of a young squirrel when God knows his needs far better than I do? Humans are notorious for “rescuing” animals that need no rescue. And even my imagined “worst case scenario” would provide a meal for another of God’s creatures. 

2) Why am I anxious about many things in my own life when God knows each need and He values me more than many sparrows? I don’t know how to deal with even the squirrel-size problems, so why do I think that worrying will help me find solutions to the bigger problems? God will provide the answers if and when the time is right. 

3) Why does it seem more profitable to pray and expend energy on a young squirrel than on friends and loved ones who don’t know God as their Lord and Savior? Some of those folks do make it into my prayers regularly, but not as frequently or fervently as they should.

Jesus said, “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you. Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble” (Matthew 6:33-34). If seeking God and loving Him are our first priority, everything else will fall into place. But that can be hard to remember when the things of this world clamor for our attention. It takes diligent effort to keep everything in perspective.

Jerry Bridges wrote in Trusting God:

“I mistakenly thought I could not trust God unless I felt like trusting him (which I almost never did in times of adversity). Now I am learning that trusting God is first of all a matter of the will, and is not dependent on my feelings. I choose to trust God and my feelings eventually follow… The same David who said in Psalm 56:4, ‘In God I trust; I will not be afraid’ said in Psalm 34:4, ‘I sought the Lord, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears.’ There is no conflict between saying, ‘I will not be afraid’ and asking God to deliver us from our fears. David recognized it was his responsibility to choose to trust God, but also that he was dependent upon the Lord for the ability to do it.”

I don’t know what Squirrel Nutkin’s future may hold. (If I see him again I’ll try to get a picture.) I do hope he’ll be around for a long time, if for no other reason than to remind me that God takes care of His creatures as He deems best, and I can trust Him to take care of me.

“Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God… casting all your anxieties on Him, because He cares for you” (1 Peter 5:6-7).

© 2017 Dawn Rutan. Unless otherwise indicated all images are copyright free from pixabay.com. 

Fearless

I’m reading the book Fearless, by Suzanne D. Williams, which has some helpful and encouraging thoughts in regards to fear. She points out that Philippians 3:13 calls us to forget (no longer care for) those things that lie behind. “Allowing the cares of life, in this case the fear, to operate in my mind causes any seed of God’s Word planted in my heart to never do what it was planted to do… It is God’s will that ‘not a trace’ of the memory of this fear remain. Instead, we remember the power of the Lord, which brings our deliverance” (44). She urges readers to lay hold of these verses:

Isaiah 41:12-13 (ESV)- “You shall seek those who contend with you, but you shall not find them; those who war against you shall be as nothing at all. For I, the Lord your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, ‘Fear not, I am the one who helps you.’”

Isaiah 26:13-14- “O Lord our God, other lords besides You have ruled over us, but Your name alone we bring to remembrance. They are dead, they will not live; they are shades, they will not arise; to that end You have visited them with destruction and wiped out all remembrance of them.”

It’s amazing how fears seem to take on a life of their own—a family member doesn’t call at the designated time, and suddenly they “must be” at death’s doorstep; a boss criticizes you so he “must be” planning to fire you; and so on. If all our fears came true, the world would have exploded long ago.

Why do we let our fallen imaginations have more power over us than God’s Word? The past and the future are not living beings. Whatever we remember and whatever we can imagine have no real power. God dwells with us in His eternal present. As we live in His presence, and because of His power and love, we have nothing to fear. And yet many of us live quite fearfully. We live in a culture of anxiety, and we try to medicate the symptoms without addressing the root problem. At heart, we are not trusting God to be God. We have set ourselves on the throne, desiring to be in control but lacking the ability to control anything.

I’m not trying to point fingers at anyone but myself. I would love to blame physiology, sociology, or psychology, but mostly it is bad theology. My thoughts don’t line up with what I say I believe about God. Either He is in control, or He’s not omnipotent. Either He knows the future better than I do, or He’s not omniscient. Either He’s at work all around me in ways I can’t begin to comprehend, or He’s not omnipresent. Who am I to worry whether He’ll take care of my problems?

“God, did you know that…?” -I know.

“But what about…?” -I’m taking care of it.

“But the deadline is…” -My timing is perfect.

“OK, so what can I do?” -Just rest, child.

“He who keeps you will not slumber. Behold, He who keeps Israel will neither slumber nor sleep. The Lord is your keeper; the Lord is your shade on your right hand” (Psalm 121:3b-5).

For more on this subject, check out- http://www.desiringgod.org/articles/use-anxiety-to-your-advantage

© 2016 Dawn Rutan. 

Cast Offs

I had started writing this post last week, but was too busy and stressed to finish it. I guess I was intended to wait a few days so that others could contribute to the final product...

I don’t know about anyone else, but I have trouble figuring out how not to be anxious. I went online to look for advice and found a sermon by John Piper on 1 Peter 5:1-11. He rightly points out that “casting all your anxieties on Him” is part of a larger dissertation on humility. Entrusting our cares to God is an essential component of humbling ourselves before Him: “before you can put yourself humbly under God’s mighty hand, you have to put your anxiety confidently in God’s mighty hand.”

Piper mentions that there’s also an element of humbling ourselves before others. I started thinking about all the things that add to my stress and anxiety levels, and how much of that is tied to the pride of self-sufficiency and self-imposed expectations. A few days ago I came up with some questions for myself, many of which are related to questions Pastor Matt asked in his sermon this week. He asked, “How much of your burden is caused by sin and its consequences? ...How much is an effort to keep up an appearance?” So here are the questions I’ve been asking:

• What tasks am I doing that could or should be done by someone else or not at all?
• What deadlines have I set that could be pushed back?
• What is actually required of me for my job or for my church?
• What activities can I cut back without great loss?

Related to all those questions, what would happen if I started saying no to some things? I’m working on revising how I set my priorities based on my answers to those questions:

• It is not necessary for me to attend every scheduled meeting of every board and committee I am on, though some discussions may require my presence.
• It is not necessary for me to have an immediate answer to every possible question, though I will do my best to answer the relevant questions as I can.
• It is not necessary to be at church every time the doors are open, though I do need to be there on a regular basis and remain in fellowship with other believers (Hebrews 10:24-25).
• It is not necessary to read through the Bible in a year, though I do need to read a little each day (2 Timothy 3:16).
• It is not necessary to be fully versed in every point of theology, though I will continue to learn (2 Timothy 2:15).
• It is not even necessary to know exactly how to pray for the complex issues in our world today, though I must pray (Romans 8:26, 1 Timothy 2:1-2).

As Pastor Matt shared last week from his conversation with Paul David Tripp, “God will never give you conflicting callings... Don’t try to do too much.” There are some things we are called to do, but a lot of stress and anxiety could be eliminated if we stopped trying to do things God never called us to do.

So how do we cast our anxieties on God? One way is to prayerfully consider what God requires of you at this time in this situation, then trust that He’ll take care of the rest. It may mean humbly asking for help from other people, or frank conversations about your limitations. It may mean saying no to some new request. It may require seeking guidance and encouragement from your Christian family.

If God has designed us with limitations (since we are not omniscient, omnipresent, or omnipotent), and He has given each of us a unique role in His Body, then He must also provide the capable people to fulfill each task He has ordained. None of us can do it all alone, and we aren’t meant to try. Doing so will only cause us unnecessary stress and anxiety. We can rest in the faith that He’s already provided a way to accomplish His will, and we can cast off those burdens we were never meant to carry.

“Come to Me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28 ESV).

© 2016 Dawn Rutan.

Fear Not

I’ve read some things recently that talked about fear as a sin, and I’ve been wrestling with that thought. It seems to me that most of the scriptural admonitions to “fear not” are more a word of encouragement than a commandment. Some fears are good. We are told to fear God in honor and reverence. Fear of imminent danger moves us to take necessary action. Certainly there are some fears that are sinful. Fear of people and protecting our reputation is pride. Obsessive worry about the future reveals a lack of faith in God. It’s misleading to talk about the “sin of fear” without defining exactly what is meant, and the authors who have done so have created some unnecessary fear in people wondering if they’ve been unintentionally sinning.

Even though Jesus instructed us in Matthew 6 not to be anxious because God provides, when He spoke directly to Martha about her anxious preparations in Luke 10:41 there is no indication that He spoke harshly or that she needed to repent of sin. He certainly could have used stronger language of rebuke if He thought it necessary. In my imagination He uses a very loving and perhaps even playful tone. “Martha, forget the hors d’oeuvres and come join the party!”

For me the question of whether fear is sin or not comes down to how it motivates me to act. If it gives me a goal to work toward and the impetus to change, it’s probably a good thing. If it leads me to pray and seek God’s will more, that’s good too. But if it paralyzes me and keeps me from loving God and loving others wholeheartedly, I’ve got a problem. And if I’m obsessed with anxiety about things I have no control over, I can’t focus on doing all that God has called me to do. Then I really need to repent and cast my cares upon God and learn to trust Him with the results.

One book I read recently, which I won’t even name, commented that when we pray about something we should only pray it once and then trust God, because repeatedly asking the same thing will reveal a lack of faith. (The author later contradicted himself.) God knows our level of faith better than we do. He also knows our thoughts and desires better than we do. So if something is concerning us, we might as well talk to Him about it! We don’t have to nag Him to answer our prayers, but we need not feel ashamed to bring up a matter more than once. Can you imagine a marriage in which the spouses only talked about new issues and never repeated themselves?

The book of Isaiah contains a large number of “fear not” verses, and many are worth memorizing. Here are just a few:

• “Say to those who have an anxious heart, ‘Be strong, fear not! Behold, your God will come with vengeance, with the recompense of God. He will come and save you” (Isaiah 35:4 ESV).
• “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand” (41:10).
• “For I, the Lord your God, hold your right hand; it is I who say to you, ‘Fear not, I am the one who helps you” (41:13).
• “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by name, you are mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you” (43:1b-2).
• “Fear not, nor be afraid; have I not told you from of old and declared it? And you are my witnesses! Is there a God besides Me? There is no Rock; I know not any” (44:8).
• “Fear not, for you will not be ashamed; be not confounded, for you will not be disgraced; for you will forget the shame of your youth, and the reproach of your widowhood you will remember no more. For your Maker is your husband, the Lord of hosts is His name; and the Holy One of Israel if your Redeemer, the God of the whole earth He is called” (54:4-5).

So if fear and anxiety are a problem for you, look to the Scriptures and find encouragement there, since “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1). The admonition to “fear not” is not intended to bring condemnation or shame, but is a reminder of the God who is in control and who loves us more than we can imagine!

“So we can confidently say, ‘The Lord is my helper; I will not fear; what can man do to me?’” –Hebrews 13:6