Take Up Your Cross

The world tells us “Be who you are! Do what makes you happy!” But Jesus taught something much different:

“If anyone would come after Me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow Me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it” (Matt. 16:24-25).

Each one of us has a cross to bear. Your cross is that area of life where you want to just throw in the towel. It could be difficult relationships with parents or children, or unwanted singleness; it may be the physical suffering of a chronic or terminal illness, or multiple miscarriages; perhaps it is gender dysphoria, same-sex attraction, or other enduring temptation. Each person’s cross is a little different, but each is a heavy load. To follow Jesus requires us to carry that load while living in obedience to His Word. If we choose comfort and pleasure over taking up our crosses, we are in danger of condemnation. “For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul?” (Mark 8:36). Some have chosen to reinterpret or ignore portions of Scripture in order to avoid the burden of their crosses. We are meant to be people who—

• forgive those who hurt us 
• trust Him in the midst of loss and sorrow 
• believe that He has made us who we are and is with us in our struggles 
• turn to Him instead of self-medicating with whatever pleasures we can find

We can tend to forget that Jesus knows what suffering is. Easter is sometimes the only week we focus on all that Jesus went through in His death. He didn’t go to the cross eagerly. He wanted to avoid it if He could, but ultimately, He trusted the Father’s plan to bring perfect good out of the greatest evil.

“Then He said to them, ‘My soul is very sorrowful, even to death; remain here, and watch with Me.’ And going a little farther He fell on His face and prayed, saying, ‘My Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from Me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as You will’” (Matt. 26:38-39).

Even when the decision was made, Jesus didn’t breeze through the torture and crucifixion with a smile on His face.

“My God, My God, why have You forsaken Me?” (Matt. 27:46).

Let’s not forget that Jesus also endured suffering during His life up to that point. Though we don’t know much about His childhood, He faced the same temptations and struggles that every child does (Luke 2:41-52). As He began His ministry, He endured specific temptation by the devil (Luke 4:1-13). During His years of ministry He put up with constant questioning and schemes from the Pharisees and Sadducees, doubts from those who heard His teaching, and eventually betrayal and abandonment by His own disciples. He went through all this so He could fully identify with us.

“For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need” (Heb. 4:15-16).

So when Jesus calls us to take up our own crosses and follow Him, it is not an abstract concept or a command from one who has never been there. And because He bore His cross, we are enabled to do the same.

“Therefore… let us also lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, looking to Jesus, the founder and perfecter of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is seated at the right hand of the throne of God” (Heb. 12:1-2).

© 2022 Dawn Rutan. Unless otherwise indicated, all Scripture are ESV and all images are copyright free from pixabay.com. The opinions stated do not necessarily reflect the views of my church or employer.

No Comparison

I’m finally getting back to routine after a couple weeks of convention chaos, and so I thought I’d borrow an idea from Rev. Clio Thomas’s sermon “Everybody Has Something.” We all have some challenge we’re trying to cope with. Each one is different in type, complexity, and our response to it.

Some book I read recently made the point that it doesn’t make any sense for us to compare our burdens with one another. Yes, some others may look larger or smaller than ours, but that doesn’t mean they are any more or less important. Comparison only tends to lead to either pride or shame. I don’t know how many times I’ve heard someone say, “I can’t complain, there are people far worse off than I am.” I would hope that people who say that are honestly praising God in the midst of their burdens, but from what I’ve seen, that is often not the case. Many are subconsciously saying, “I’m ashamed that I can’t handle this and I don’t want to ask for help.” (Been there, done that.)

It doesn’t really matter how our burden compares with someone else’s. It may be physical, emotional, relational, spiritual, or occupational. It may be urgent or chronic, temporary or permanent. The thing we need to remember is that if it matters to us, it matters to God. He told us to cast all our cares on Him because He cares for us (1 Peter 5:7), not just the ones that are big enough to count or are comparatively bigger than the average of others’ burdens.

We’re also told to “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ” (Galatians 6:2 ESV). That’s not easy to do if we’re busy judging one another and comparing burdens. We’ve probably all been told that too much of our prayer time is occupied with physical needs of people. But what that means is not that we should not pray for the physical, but that we should increase the amount of time spent praying for other types of needs as well. If we took this seriously, we would all be praying a lot more.

As we seek to love and serve one another in the Body of Christ, the only comparison that should come to mind is God’s greatness and love toward His weak and sinful children who are totally undeserving of His care and compassion.

“What is man that You are mindful of him, and the son of man that You care for him?” (Psalm 8:4).

“You have multiplied, O Lord my God, Your wondrous deeds and Your thoughts toward us; none can compare with You! I will proclaim and tell of them, yet they are more than can be told” (Psalm 40:5).