Speak Up

Gabe Lyons makes some interesting comments in this short video: https://vimeo.com/184206469 He talks about Christians (and Millennials in particular) feeling marginalized and afraid to speak up and to talk about what they believe. It is certainly true that our culture has grown more hostile toward Christians in general, and perhaps the church has not done a very good job in equipping and encouraging members to be able to speak intelligently about their faith.

At the same time, I have seen this same reluctance to speak up within churches as well. From small group meetings where only a few people ever say anything, to board or conference meetings where those with strong opinions dominate the discussion and decisions. And it tends to be the older generations that hold onto control and ignore what younger people may have to contribute. Todd Wilken writes:

“Boomers don’t leave institutions when things don’t go their way (something intolerable to Boomers), they stay and fight, they protest, they sit in. In short, Boomers seek to recreate the institution in their own Boomer image.”

As a member of Gen X, my stock answer to most debates is “Whatever.” I may have an opinion, but I usually don’t think it is worth fighting over. It’s not surprising that many young people have decided to start new churches rather than try to fight to be heard in existing churches. Others leave the church entirely as they get discouraged by the lack of opportunity, authenticity, and community.

Even the Apostle Paul had to remind Timothy, “Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity” (1 Tim. 4:12 ESV). It seems to be a perpetual problem in the church that those who have been around the longest don’t want to let things change. Churches can become ingrown because of that. Thom Rainer wrote a brief list of warning signs of inwardly focused churches. He notes,

“Almost any noticeable changes in the church evoke the ire of many; but those same passions are not evident about participating in the work of the gospel to change lives… Very few members share their faith on a regular basis. More are concerned about their own needs rather than the greatest eternal needs of the world and the community in which they live.”

It’s worth the time to think about how well your church or small group functions, if you don’t mind a little uncomfortable examination. Do those who attend also participate with their words and actions? If not, why not? If a visitor were to come in, would they feel welcome? Would they understand what was going on? Would they feel free to contribute to the discussion? Do church members know how to share their faith with unbelievers, and are they actually doing so?

Many of us need to find courage to speak up, both in our churches and our culture. That courage comes from confidence in who we are in Christ and in His ability to speak to us and through us. I’ll be the first to say “I’d rather not,” but His grace is sufficient for all such difficult interactions.

“Not that we are sufficient in ourselves to claim anything as coming from us, but our sufficiency is from God, who has made us sufficient to be ministers of a new covenant…” (2 Corinthians 3:5-6 ESV).

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Speak No Evil

A couple items I’ve encountered recently have focused my attention on how we use social media. The first was this cautionary article by Thom Rainer: http://thomrainer.com/2014/08/04/seven-warnings-church-leaders-use-social-media/ and the second was last Sunday’s sermon on church unity from 1 Corinthians 1:10-17. It’s made me reconsider some of the things I see on Facebook and particularly whether I should respond to someone else’s post or not. Here are some of the difficulties that I see:

Christians are by no means united in their beliefs, not just about basic theology, but about politics and all kinds of social issues. Is Facebook the best place to “discuss” such issues, by which I mean, is it the best place to state your personal opinion on a controversial issue and seek popular approval?

In addition, non-Christians (and many Christians) often don’t have a solid grasp of the differences between churches, denominations, parachurch organizations, or heretical teachers. As a result, a wide variety of people get lumped together. For some Franklin Graham may appear to be in the same boat with Creflo Dollar. Whether you agree with a nationally known person or not, taking sides either way may give false impressions to those who don’t understand the differences. A brief comment on social media is not adequate to clarify the underlying issues.

It’s tempting at times to share some celebrity’s public comment and criticize them for being too judgmental, but it appears to me that doing so only increases the judgmentalism being passed around. For example, you may not like their stance on homosexuality, but is it necessary to be publicly critical of them in order to state your own opinion? Jesus said, “By this all people will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another” (John 13:35 ESV). Is it a good witness to publicly criticize fellow believers whether you agree with them or not?

Paul wrote:

• “Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person” (Colossians 4:6).
• “Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity” (1 Timothy 4:12).
• “‘All things are lawful,’ but not all things are helpful. ‘All things are lawful,’ but not all things build up. Let no one seek his own good, but the good of his neighbor” (1 Corinthians 10:23-24).

The book of Proverbs is also full of wisdom about how we should use our words. I’m sure I’m not the only one who is disturbed by the frequency with which we publicly tear people down rather than building them up and seeking their good. This isn’t anything new, but social media has made it a lot more visible to a lot more people. But on the plus side, we also have a lot more opportunities to encourage one another, pray for one another, share the Good News, and spur one another on to love and good deeds.

I would suggest that believers should endeavor to maximize the benefits of social media rather than contributing to the divisive issues that are becoming our “trademark” in the world. May the world say of us, “See how they love one another!”