I Am Worthy!

Sometimes I’ll run across a book that phrases something just a little differently and it will make me think more deeply about the subject. This week that happened with Shame and Grace, by Lewis B. Smedes. Here’s what he wrote, “You can tell that grace is gracious if it makes you feel better for having it, feel lighter, and, when it comes down to it, feel like the worthy human being you are. The question is: are we accepted by grace only in spite of our unworthiness or are we also accepted precisely because we are worthy? …Is it possible that we could be undeserving of grace and yet worthy of it? …Think of the difference this way. If I deserve some good thing that comes my way, it is because I did something to earn it. If I am worthy, it is because I am somebody of enormous value” (119-120).

Perhaps, like me, you may still be inclined to object “I’m not worthy!” But consider these verses:

• “See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God…” (1 John 3:1).
• “In this is love, not that we have loved God, but that He loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins” (1 John 4:10).
• “But God shows His love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8).

Those who are parents probably remember the birth of your child vividly. What did that infant do to deserve your love? Absolutely nothing. But are they worthy of your love? Of course. The fact that you love them makes them valuable in your sight. They belong to you and so they are worth more than any possession.

Dennis Jernigan comments on a couple different albums, “[If someone] came for me and risked their life for me that would bestow upon me great value… I must have been worth something for [Jesus] to lay aside the riches of heaven for me.” God so loved me that He sent Jesus to the cross on my behalf. I am worthy because God chose me and loves me. In myself I am undeserving of such mercy and grace, but Jesus filled the gap for me. I can’t do anything to deserve God’s love and acceptance, but I am worthy of it anyway! My worth is not determined by anything I will ever do. My worth is determined by God alone.

At the end of his book, Smedes includes the following personal statement of faith, which I believe is worth reprinting in its entirety:

• I believe that the only self I need to measure up to is the self my Maker meant me to be.
• I believe that I am accepted by the grace of God without regard to my deserving.
• I believe that I am accepted along with my shadows and the mix of good and bad I breed in them.
• I believe that I am worthy to be accepted.
• I believe that grace has set me free to accept myself totally, and without conditions, though I do not approve of everything I accept.
• I believe that nothing I deserve to be ashamed of will ever make me unacceptable to God.
• I believe that I can forgive anyone who has ever infected me with shame I do not deserve.
• I believe that I may forgive myself for anything that I have ever done to shame myself or another person.
• I am gratefully proud of being who I am and what I shall be.
• I believe that the grace of God heals the shame I do not deserve and heals the shame I do.
• I believe that grace is the best thing in the world.

Seeds of Faith

Last night I was reading Psalm 126. Verse 6 says, “He who goes out weeping, bearing the seed for sowing, shall come home with shouts of joy, bringing his sheaves with him.” That got me wondering—what exactly are the seeds we’re supposed to be sowing as we go out weeping? I think that question is answered by asking a different one—what is the fruit or sheaves we will one day reap? I suppose it’s natural to think of the Fruit of the Spirit. Some may also think of the harvest of souls Jesus talked about in Matthew 9:37-38. There may be other interpretations as well.

So if we’re wanting to reap a harvest of fruit in our own lives or in the lives of those we love, what seeds do we need to sow? I would suggest that what we need most is the seed of faith. It doesn’t have to be any bigger than a mustard seed (Matthew 17:20). Just a tiny bit of faith can make a huge difference. It can move mountains and make valleys more bearable.

How does this relate to the first part of the verse—going out weeping? As one who’s done my share of weeping, I think this can be applied to any of the trials and tribulations of life (John 16:33). We all walk through difficulties at various times, and we’ll all face the valley of the shadow of death as well. In the midst of those troubles, a tiny seed of faith can make the difference between hope and hopelessness, between peace and fear.

There are times, though, when even that tiny bit of faith seems to be missing. In those times, we need the faith of others to help carry us through. Like the paralytic in Mark 2, we need some friends to carry us to Jesus. They may do that through prayer, through reminding us of God’s love and faithfulness, or even through the seemingly mundane things like driving us to the doctor or fixing a meal. Several times in the Gospels it is said that people were coming to Jesus bringing the lame, blind, crippled, children and babies, and Jesus never turned them away. A few times a person couldn’t be moved, but a messenger was sent to Jesus and He responded to their requests of faith.

Sharon Jaynes writes in Your Scars Are Beautiful to God, “Sometimes we don’t have the energy to make it to the Healer alone. How blessed to have friends who will be the stretcher bearers to carry us to the Savior, risk the rebuke of others, and are not afraid of getting a bit messy in the process… It is a gift to have one person with whom we can be completely honest. How much better if we can have two or three… A friend can remind me of God’s faithfulness when my memory is clouded by the circumstances of life” (p. 71).

On the good days, it’s easier to remember that God loves, cares, is in control, and is faithful to us. On the bad days, we often forget (or don’t believe) that God really is working all things together for our good (Romans 8:28). That mustard seed of faith, either our own or others’, can keep us moving forward toward that eventual day of harvest and rejoicing. For those who feel lacking in faith, seek out someone who can help carry your burdens, and be encouraged by knowing that even a little faith can move mountains. One day you may find that you have sown seeds you didn’t even know about as you kept walking through the valley. For those who have loved ones who are struggling with some problem, don’t discount the value of your own faith and the effect it can have on them. Keep doing the “little” things of loving, encouraging, and praying for them.

“Jesus answered, ‘O woman, great is your faith! Be it done for you as you desire.’ And her daughter was healed instantly” (Matthew 15:28).

“I have prayed for you that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned again, strengthen your brothers” (Luke 22:32).

Praying Specifically

Bill Hybels just finished a sermon series on prayer at Willow Creek. In one of the messages, he commented on something I’ve often thought about. Now that it’s on my mind I can’t help but notice it when people are praying, and that is the frequent use of the phrase “Be with,” as in “Be with Bill as he travels” or “Be with John in the hospital.” As Hybels pointed out, why are we praying for something that is already promised to believers in Scripture?

·         “And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age” (Matthew 28:20).

·         “…even the Spirit of truth… You know him, for He dwells with you and will be in you” (John 14:17).

·         “Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you?” (1 Corinthians 3:16).

·         “It is no longer I who live but Christ who lives in me” (Galatians 2:20).

·         “By the Holy Spirit who dwells within us, guard the good deposit entrusted to you” (2 Timothy 1:14).

Granted, there are a couple times in Scripture where Paul says, “The Lord be with you” (2 Thessalonians 3:16) or “The Lord with your spirit” (2 Timothy 4:22), but I would take these more as a word of blessing (benediction) than as a prayer request. More often, Paul blesses the readers with “grace be with you” or “peace be with you.”

What exactly is it we’re hoping for when we pray “Be with Aunt Margaret”? I would suggest a few things we can pray that are more specific and more scriptural.

·         Give peace and comfort to John in the hospital and heal this infection quickly.

·         Protect Bill as he travels and keep him alert on the roads.

·         Remind Margaret that You are with her as she mourns and bring friends alongside her.

·         Encourage Sam and let him know he is loved by You and by his family.

·         Bring Sue to a saving knowledge of Your love and grace.

I know when we’re praying, especially in public, it is hard to come up with the right words to convey all our desires for a person. So “be with” has become a catch-all phrase to fill the gap (and “bless” is right behind that in usage). I’m not sure how we can recognize answers to prayer if all we pray are vague generalities. But if we pray specifically and scripturally, it should become more evident how God is working to answer those prayers. It’s a bit like writing a strategic plan (something we’ve spent months on at our office). If a goal is not specific and measurable, how do you know if/when you’ve reached it?

One of the other comments Hybels made in his sermon series is that he finds it hard to concentrate on prayer unless he writes it out longhand. That’s something I’ve started doing recently for some of my prayers. I’ve been reading through the Psalms and when a verse catches my attention I write it down and then write a prayer based on the thoughts triggered by it. That’s not a substitute for praying on the go as needs come to mind, but I find that I am more likely to include praise and thanksgiving if I’m taking the time to write out my prayers.

I suspect we all need help in our prayer lives, and that’s probably why so many people won’t pray out loud. No matter how verbally adept we may or may not be, we can take comfort in the fact that “we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words” (Romans 8:26).

Singing the Truth

Do you have any hymns that just irk you? A few have come to my attention in recent weeks. They are hymns that are generally pretty good, with catchy tunes, but have just one phrase that totally destroys the message. When we sing them in church, I’ll often drop out on the troublesome line.

One song that I have a problem with is “At the Cross.” The verses written by Isaac Watts are great, but the refrain by Ralph E. Hudson has issues. “And now I am happy all the day!” Really?! I find that hard to believe. I haven’t observed any Christians that I believe could sing those words completely honestly, which is why I choose not to sing them. I think the hymn was better off without the chorus. As one blogger wrote, “The text and musical style of the refrain… are not well-suited to the soul-searching gravity of Watt’s text…” (http://drhamrick.blogspot.com/2009/01/alas-and-did-my-savior-bleed.html).

Another hymn that frustrates me is “I Must Tell Jesus” by Elisha Hoffman. Once again it is the last line that hinders the overall message, “Jesus can help me, Jesus alone.” It is true that Jesus can help, but rarely does He choose to do so apart from human agents. The Church is known as the Body of Christ for a reason—we all need one another. This hymn is on target when it says, “I cannot bear these burdens alone,” which is precisely why we need to be talking to our brothers and sisters in Christ, and not just assuming that God will answer our prayers privately and without anyone else being involved.

A third hymn, “Tell It to Jesus” by Jeremiah E. Rankin, has the same problem: “Tell it to Jesus alone.” I begin to wonder if some of the hymn writers just got tired of looking for a good rhyme and settled for words that are lacking in biblical depth. I also wonder if these indicators of “private faith” are reflective of the culture in which the hymns were written. All three of the men mentioned (not including Isaac Watts) were Americans writing in the late 1800s. American culture in general is individualistic, and that may well have deepened following the disruption of the Civil War, which certainly did not foster unity and trust.

Thankfully, there are a great number of hymns and choruses with solid theology, some centuries old and some newly written. Unfortunately, many churches are stuck with a very limited number of songs due to familiarity or perhaps laziness. And even more unfortunately, many church members don’t actually think much about the words they are singing. They either don’t know or don’t care if they sing something that is untrue and/or unscriptural. I’ll admit that for many years I haven’t paid much attention either. Only recently have I been more conscientious about knowing what I’m singing, and that’s probably because I’ve been thinking and writing more about specific subjects such as the Body of Christ. At a recent event I was observing a non-Trinitarian person as we were singing “Holy, Holy, Holy,” and I had to give them credit for not singing the last line, “God in three persons, blessed Trinity.” Since they didn’t believe that to be true, they weren’t going to pretend it was okay to sing it.

It’s usually up to the pastor or worship leader to evaluate the quality of the musical message, and they may not have the time to do so. I challenge you (and myself) to think about the words we sing. Are they biblical? Do I believe them? Am I being honest with myself and others by making these claims? I’d also challenge those who are involved in children’s ministry to think about the songs we are teaching our kids. (I personally have problems with “If you’re happy and you know it,” “Climb, climb up sunshine mountain,” and similar tunes.) Do we really want our children singing something unbiblical just because it has a catchy tune and fun motions?

“Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God” (Co. 3:16).

Suicide Facts

Since I’ve taken a break from tradition to focus on Mental Illness Awareness Week, I wanted to share the following “Ten Fables and Ten Facts about Suicide” and “Warning Signs to Watch For” from New Light on Depression: Help, Hope, & Answers for the Depressed & Those Who Love Them, by David Biebel and Harold Koenig (pp. 236-237). This is a helpful book despite the fact that it’s almost 10 years old. It is written for Christians, but has valuable information for anyone. Another good resource is http://www.save.org/

Statistics show that about 15 percent of clinically depressed persons will commit suicide. So it is essential that we know the facts.

Fable 1: People who talk about suicide do not commit suicide.
  Fact 1: 80 percent of those considering suicide do talk about it in one way or another.

Fable 2: Suicide happens without warning.
  Fact 2: Suicidal people give many clues of their intentions.

Fable 3: Suicidal people are fully intent on dying.
  Fact 3: Most are undecided but are willing to take a gamble that someone will discover their plans and intervene.

Fable 4: Once a person is suicidal, he is suicidal forever.
  Fact 4: Suicidal intentions usually are time-limited.

Fable 5: Improvement after suicidal crisis means the risk is over.
  Fact 5: Most suicides occur about three months after improvement begins, when a person has enough energy to act out his or her thoughts.

Fable 6: Suicide is more common among the rich.
  Fact 6: Suicide occurs in equal proportion throughout society.

Fable 7: Suicide is inherited or runs in families.
  Fact 7: Suicide is an individual pattern.

Fable 8: All suicidal patients are mentally ill.
  Fact 8: While extremely unhappy and perturbed prior to death by suicide, many who take their own life would not be judged mentally ill.

Fable 9: Deep religious faith makes suicide impossible.
  Fact 9: The despair and hopelessness accompanying severe depressive illness can undermine faith.

Fable 10: Caregivers (family or friends) can always prevent suicide.
  Fact 10: People intent on suicide may succeed even when friends and family do everything possible to prevent this outcome. When this happens, it is not the caregivers’ fault.”

Warning Signs to Watch For

• Expressions of helplessness or hopelessness
• Extreme withdrawal from friends, family, and usual activities
• Talking about suicide or ending it all
• Self-destructive or risk-taking behavior
• Giving away favorite possessions
• Sudden changes in behavior or mood
• Increasing use of alcohol or drugs
• Identification with someone who has committed suicide
• Preoccupation with thoughts of death
• Clear plans
• Previous suicide attempts

Christians and Depression

This is Mental Illness Awareness Week. Many folks know that I’ve struggled with depression most of my life, sometimes major, sometimes minor, but almost always there. So it’s a subject I’m often researching, looking for new medical breakthroughs or just looking for encouragement from people who have been there. So I thought I would share some of the things I’ve been reading lately on the subject of depression. I’ve read some good and not-so-good books in the past couple weeks, and I see the same theme repeated in many, as the following quotes reveal.

In Gwen Smith’s book Broken into Beautiful she says, “I’ve spent most of my life hiding behind a smile… I’ve always considered my past just that: my past. I’m pragmatic that way. I’ve experienced shame, pain, and brokenness as much as the next person. I just haven’t been in the habit of sharing the particulars with people who could possibly judge me for it” (p. 7).

Barbara Crafton writes in Jesus Wept (not a book I’d recommend), “The umbrage we take at depression in people of faith lies in a mistaken idea of what faith is for: we imagine that a closer walk with God will make us consistently happy. We’re so committed to this idea that some of us take sorrow on the part of religious people as evidence of their hypocrisy… Neither faith nor the lack of it guarantees happiness” (p. 95).

Another author I’m starting to like is Sheila Walsh. I have not yet read her first book, Honestly, but in Extraordinary Faith she quotes a woman she met, “I used to believe. I used to believe that God loved me, and the church would be there for you when times got rough, but it’s a crock. The church is just a building full of people pretending to be okay when they’re bleeding to death” (p. 83).

And one book I haven’t finished yet is New Light on Depression, by David Biebel and Harold Koenig. They list and refute ten myths about depression: 1) You’re depressed because you want to be depressed. 2) You can beat depression with willpower. 3) You’re depressed because of unconfessed sins. 4) If you’re depressed, you’re just feeling sorry for yourself. 5) Depressed believers have weak faith. 6) It’s easy to tell when you are depressed. 7) Depression is just another word for grief. 8) Christians will be understanding and supportive. 9) Depression is a waste of time. 10) Depression arises from repressed anger (pp. 75-91).

The common, and disturbing, theme in all these is that Christians tend to stigmatize believers who are suffering from depression (as well as other mental illnesses). There is a lack of understanding and an abundance of misconceptions about depression and how it relates to faith. As a result, Christians who are depressed end up with added shame for not living up to the standards of their community, and they may try to survive in secrecy. Jan Dravecky in A Joy I’d Never Known mentions a pastor who preached at her, “If you are depressed, you don’t need medication, you don’t need counseling, you don’t need to go running after everything the world has to offer. That will only open you up to the power of Satan…” Some small part of me hopes that this guy suddenly experiences depression for himself!

The truth is that people from all walks of life can suffer from depression. It often has nothing to do with faith, although shame and guilt can certainly add to the problem. Sometimes it leaves without treatment, but often medication and/or counseling are needed. At the very least we need friends who will encourage us and remind us of the truth of God’s promises in Scripture.

For those who are seeking to help a depressed person, the two most important things you can do are listen and pray. Listen without judging. Ask questions. Don’t be afraid to ask the suicide question. Share encouragement and truth as appropriate. There may be times for offering advice, but you need to be sure they are open to hearing it. And pray for the person when you are together as well as any other time they may come to mind. We all like to fix problems, but there are no quick fixes to depression. As John Townsend writes in Where Is God? “God uses our difficulties to make us relationally based people, rather than solutions-based people—relationships first, solutions second” (p. 116).

For those who are in the hole of depression, the top two recommendations I can give are: 1) Be totally honest with at least one person who can support and encourage you with biblical counsel and wisdom; and 2) Don’t give up. Keep on keeping on even when the road never seems to end. I feel like my whole life has been one of learning and relearning how to let people in. When I don’t, that road ahead of me looks like a never-ending uphill climb. But as I let others join me, I no longer notice the road but begin to enjoy the journey.

I’m not sure I’ll ever be completely free from this particular thorn, but as Paul said it does keep me humble and reminds me that God’s grace is sufficient even in this weakness. “Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me” (2 Cor. 12:9). My frequent prayer for myself and for anyone suffering from depression is that of Romans 15:13, “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope.”

One Body

Sunday as we were taking communion, the cracker that I happened to pick up was melded to another cracker. The phrase that came to mind was “the two shall become one flesh.” When I looked that up later, I found it quoted in 1 Corinthians 6:16, and the following verses come right after it, “But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with Him… Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body” (vv. 17, 19-20).

Those words seemed appropriate for communion. It’s not just about partaking of the body and blood of Jesus Christ, but a reminder that we are united with Him in one body. “Now you are the body of Christ and individually members of it” (1 Cor. 12:27). In the words of Henri Nouwen, “The Eucharist is the sacrament through which Jesus enters into an intimate, permanent communion with us. It is the sacrament of the table. It is the sacrament of food and drink. It is the sacrament of daily nurture… Jesus gave us the Eucharist as a constant memory of his life and death. Not a memory that simply makes us think of him but a memory that makes us members of his body. That is why Jesus on the evening before he died took bread saying, ‘This is my Body,’ and took the cup saying, ‘This is my Blood.’ By eating the Body and drinking the Blood of Christ, we become one with him” (Bread for the Journey, Sept. 30).

The other phrase that was triggered by my “twin” cracker was “becoming like Him.” That could come from 1 John 3:2, “Beloved, we are God’s children now, and what we will be has not yet appeared; but we know that when He appears we shall be like Him, because we shall see Him as He is.” Another verse is Philippians 3:10, “that I may know Him and the power of His resurrection, and may share in His sufferings, becoming like Him in His death.”

I wonder sometimes whether it is outwardly evident that I am becoming more like Him, or is it too hidden from view? Is my “cracker” being absorbed into His, or am I something else altogether? (You may be thinking I’m a nut.) As Pastor Matt pointed out, our modern perception of the church is that of independent “small bites” without any consideration of the fact that we are one body, all melded into one another and into the larger Body of Christ. (The worst marketing device I’ve seen was the “prepackaged communion cup and wafer.”) Perhaps our efforts at convenience and visitor-friendliness have backfired when it comes to the unity of the church.

During communion I also remembered a previous time when my communion cup had a slight crack in the side. I had to hold one hand under the cup to catch the drips. It makes me wonder whether a lot of Christians want the “sanitized” Jesus, enjoying the Baby of Christmas but avoiding the suffering, blood, and death on the cross. They want the joy and peace of knowing they have eternal life, but they don’t want any interference in daily life, and certainly not any real pain or suffering. They want a little bit of Jesus, but they don’t want to “get any on them.”

We’re probably all guilty at various times of thinking that church activities and the Christian life are too inconvenient, too intrusive, or just too much. Have you heard the old line, “Jesus gave His life for you. The least you could do is give your life for Him!”? I’m not sure guilt-trips ever work for long-term motivation. But perhaps if we begin to see ourselves as one body, living and functioning together, we’ll find a growing desire to participate more fully in life together.

May our local body be visibly conformed to the image of Christ (Romans 8:29).