Stones of Remembrance

I was thinking awhile back about the moments in our Christian lives that we tend to remember. Depending on your denomination or tradition, you may have special recognition for child dedication, baptism, first communion, marriage, and perhaps ordination. Some churches give certificates or Bibles for special occasions. But if you think about it, those events represent a very small number of days out of a lifetime of experiences.

This observation came to mind as I was watching someone being baptized, and I realized that when I was baptized at seven years old I had a child’s understanding of faith, and I didn’t really know that Christianity wasn’t about being good. My understanding has grown through the various stages of my life. The past year has been one of significant growth and change, and part of me wished I could be re-baptized to signify a fresh start. I’m not a proponent of rebaptism, particularly when I think of the symbolism of being buried in baptism and raised to new life. If the old flesh is dead and buried, it does not need to be buried again. I accept by faith that one baptism is enough, regardless of my limited understanding at the time. (Do we ever fully understand our new life in Christ?)

So that leads to the question—how can we memorialize the special events or new stages of our life of faith? I was reminded in the Old Testament of the multiple times that people gathered “stones of remembrance” to build a memorial or altar following some event. Noah built an altar after coming safely out of the ark (Genesis 8). Crossing the Jordan River into the Promised Land, God directed the people to gather stones for an altar (Deuteronomy 27 & Joshua 4). Elijah gathered twelve stones to build an altar, which he then used to disprove and disgrace the prophets of Baal (1 Kings 18). Abraham, Jacob, and Moses all built altars and renamed places in memory of something that God had done there.

I wonder if we should adopt a similar practice at times—creating something to remind us of how God has worked in a particular time or place? I think we are naturally inclined to create memorials, whether it’s a photo album, scrapbook, souvenir, or bumper sticker. We like to remember where we’ve been and good times we’ve enjoyed. So why not adapt that for the good things God has done and blessings we’ve enjoyed? Obviously we don’t want to fall into the trap of worshiping the creation rather than the Creator (as Israel did on multiple occasions). But we can all use reminders of the things we should be thankful for. It doesn’t have to be anything big. At one time in my life I collected small white stones out of my driveway to mark a certain event, and those stones are now inside a paperweight I made. And more recently, I’ve simply been counting the weeks on my calendar to remind me of how God has given me victory in a particular area (16 weeks and counting).

When God directed the Israelites to gather stones after crossing the Jordan, they were told, “When your children ask why these stones are here, you are to tell them what God has done” (my paraphrase). Part of the value of the memorial is in sharing the story with others, passing it along to children, grandchildren, and friends to teach them how God has worked in the past so that they may trust Him for the future. And in remembering together, you can also praise God together.

It’s something to think about as we approach Thanksgiving. What has God done in the past year that you need to share with someone? What family stories need to be preserved in some way so that they won’t be forgotten in the next generation? Just as the Jews still observe their feast days to remember and teach what God did in the past, we can use special occasions like Thanksgiving to do the same.

“[Remember] so that all the peoples of the earth may know that the hand of the Lord is mighty, that you may fear the Lord your God forever” (Joshua 4:24).

Hope in God's Steadfast Love

The Apostle Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 15:19, “If in Christ we have hope in this life only, we are of all people most to be pitied.” Have you ever considered the converse statement, “If in Christ we have hope for eternity only, we are to be pitied”? Perhaps it is just because of where I’m at in life, but that latter statement has come to mind more than once in recent months. Yes, we need to have hope for eternal life, which is Paul’s point, but don’t we also need hope for daily life? Certainly there are times when the eternal hope is predominant, such as in the case of terminal illness or when enduring persecution for your faith. At those times, daily life may be so precarious that hope has to rest in the promise of eternal life free from pain and suffering.

But for most of us there are a lot of days to live in this life before we arrive at the fullness of eternal life. So where do we find that hope to carry us from day to day when circumstances are discouraging, life feels less than enjoyable, and perseverance is lacking?

Last night I came across this verse: “But the Lord takes pleasure in those who fear Him, in those who hope in His steadfast love” (Psalm 147:11). Something clicked for me in reading that. God’s love is our source of hope. There are more than 120 references to God’s steadfast love in the Psalms alone (26 in Psalm 136). It doesn’t matter what is going on around us—we are assured of His love, so we can endure. We know that He cares (1 Peter 5:7); He is with us (Matthew 28:20); He is at work in us (Philippians 1:6); and He will bear fruit in us (John 15:5, Galatians 5:22). That knowledge should give us hope to keep pressing on, though I’ll be the first to admit that that is sometimes easier said than done. I’m preaching at myself here and I’ve had this preached at me a few times lately.

When relationships hurt—hope in His steadfast love.
When work is frustrating—hope in His steadfast love.
When stress piles up—hope in His steadfast love.
When sorrows accumulate—hope in His steadfast love.
When nothing seems to change—hope in His steadfast love.

Rich Mullins' song Verge of a Miracle is a reminder to me that God’s love is near, and that is a promise we can hold onto when nothing else makes sense. It’s also a reminder that we may never know when we’re on the verge of a miracle. The miraculous usually isn’t announced in advance!

I Am Worthy!

Sometimes I’ll run across a book that phrases something just a little differently and it will make me think more deeply about the subject. This week that happened with Shame and Grace, by Lewis B. Smedes. Here’s what he wrote, “You can tell that grace is gracious if it makes you feel better for having it, feel lighter, and, when it comes down to it, feel like the worthy human being you are. The question is: are we accepted by grace only in spite of our unworthiness or are we also accepted precisely because we are worthy? …Is it possible that we could be undeserving of grace and yet worthy of it? …Think of the difference this way. If I deserve some good thing that comes my way, it is because I did something to earn it. If I am worthy, it is because I am somebody of enormous value” (119-120).

Perhaps, like me, you may still be inclined to object “I’m not worthy!” But consider these verses:

• “See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God…” (1 John 3:1).
• “In this is love, not that we have loved God, but that He loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins” (1 John 4:10).
• “But God shows His love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8).

Those who are parents probably remember the birth of your child vividly. What did that infant do to deserve your love? Absolutely nothing. But are they worthy of your love? Of course. The fact that you love them makes them valuable in your sight. They belong to you and so they are worth more than any possession.

Dennis Jernigan comments on a couple different albums, “[If someone] came for me and risked their life for me that would bestow upon me great value… I must have been worth something for [Jesus] to lay aside the riches of heaven for me.” God so loved me that He sent Jesus to the cross on my behalf. I am worthy because God chose me and loves me. In myself I am undeserving of such mercy and grace, but Jesus filled the gap for me. I can’t do anything to deserve God’s love and acceptance, but I am worthy of it anyway! My worth is not determined by anything I will ever do. My worth is determined by God alone.

At the end of his book, Smedes includes the following personal statement of faith, which I believe is worth reprinting in its entirety:

• I believe that the only self I need to measure up to is the self my Maker meant me to be.
• I believe that I am accepted by the grace of God without regard to my deserving.
• I believe that I am accepted along with my shadows and the mix of good and bad I breed in them.
• I believe that I am worthy to be accepted.
• I believe that grace has set me free to accept myself totally, and without conditions, though I do not approve of everything I accept.
• I believe that nothing I deserve to be ashamed of will ever make me unacceptable to God.
• I believe that I can forgive anyone who has ever infected me with shame I do not deserve.
• I believe that I may forgive myself for anything that I have ever done to shame myself or another person.
• I am gratefully proud of being who I am and what I shall be.
• I believe that the grace of God heals the shame I do not deserve and heals the shame I do.
• I believe that grace is the best thing in the world.

Seeds of Faith

Last night I was reading Psalm 126. Verse 6 says, “He who goes out weeping, bearing the seed for sowing, shall come home with shouts of joy, bringing his sheaves with him.” That got me wondering—what exactly are the seeds we’re supposed to be sowing as we go out weeping? I think that question is answered by asking a different one—what is the fruit or sheaves we will one day reap? I suppose it’s natural to think of the Fruit of the Spirit. Some may also think of the harvest of souls Jesus talked about in Matthew 9:37-38. There may be other interpretations as well.

So if we’re wanting to reap a harvest of fruit in our own lives or in the lives of those we love, what seeds do we need to sow? I would suggest that what we need most is the seed of faith. It doesn’t have to be any bigger than a mustard seed (Matthew 17:20). Just a tiny bit of faith can make a huge difference. It can move mountains and make valleys more bearable.

How does this relate to the first part of the verse—going out weeping? As one who’s done my share of weeping, I think this can be applied to any of the trials and tribulations of life (John 16:33). We all walk through difficulties at various times, and we’ll all face the valley of the shadow of death as well. In the midst of those troubles, a tiny seed of faith can make the difference between hope and hopelessness, between peace and fear.

There are times, though, when even that tiny bit of faith seems to be missing. In those times, we need the faith of others to help carry us through. Like the paralytic in Mark 2, we need some friends to carry us to Jesus. They may do that through prayer, through reminding us of God’s love and faithfulness, or even through the seemingly mundane things like driving us to the doctor or fixing a meal. Several times in the Gospels it is said that people were coming to Jesus bringing the lame, blind, crippled, children and babies, and Jesus never turned them away. A few times a person couldn’t be moved, but a messenger was sent to Jesus and He responded to their requests of faith.

Sharon Jaynes writes in Your Scars Are Beautiful to God, “Sometimes we don’t have the energy to make it to the Healer alone. How blessed to have friends who will be the stretcher bearers to carry us to the Savior, risk the rebuke of others, and are not afraid of getting a bit messy in the process… It is a gift to have one person with whom we can be completely honest. How much better if we can have two or three… A friend can remind me of God’s faithfulness when my memory is clouded by the circumstances of life” (p. 71).

On the good days, it’s easier to remember that God loves, cares, is in control, and is faithful to us. On the bad days, we often forget (or don’t believe) that God really is working all things together for our good (Romans 8:28). That mustard seed of faith, either our own or others’, can keep us moving forward toward that eventual day of harvest and rejoicing. For those who feel lacking in faith, seek out someone who can help carry your burdens, and be encouraged by knowing that even a little faith can move mountains. One day you may find that you have sown seeds you didn’t even know about as you kept walking through the valley. For those who have loved ones who are struggling with some problem, don’t discount the value of your own faith and the effect it can have on them. Keep doing the “little” things of loving, encouraging, and praying for them.

“Jesus answered, ‘O woman, great is your faith! Be it done for you as you desire.’ And her daughter was healed instantly” (Matthew 15:28).

“I have prayed for you that your faith may not fail. And when you have turned again, strengthen your brothers” (Luke 22:32).

Praying Specifically

Bill Hybels just finished a sermon series on prayer at Willow Creek. In one of the messages, he commented on something I’ve often thought about. Now that it’s on my mind I can’t help but notice it when people are praying, and that is the frequent use of the phrase “Be with,” as in “Be with Bill as he travels” or “Be with John in the hospital.” As Hybels pointed out, why are we praying for something that is already promised to believers in Scripture?

·         “And behold, I am with you always, to the end of the age” (Matthew 28:20).

·         “…even the Spirit of truth… You know him, for He dwells with you and will be in you” (John 14:17).

·         “Do you not know that you are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit dwells in you?” (1 Corinthians 3:16).

·         “It is no longer I who live but Christ who lives in me” (Galatians 2:20).

·         “By the Holy Spirit who dwells within us, guard the good deposit entrusted to you” (2 Timothy 1:14).

Granted, there are a couple times in Scripture where Paul says, “The Lord be with you” (2 Thessalonians 3:16) or “The Lord with your spirit” (2 Timothy 4:22), but I would take these more as a word of blessing (benediction) than as a prayer request. More often, Paul blesses the readers with “grace be with you” or “peace be with you.”

What exactly is it we’re hoping for when we pray “Be with Aunt Margaret”? I would suggest a few things we can pray that are more specific and more scriptural.

·         Give peace and comfort to John in the hospital and heal this infection quickly.

·         Protect Bill as he travels and keep him alert on the roads.

·         Remind Margaret that You are with her as she mourns and bring friends alongside her.

·         Encourage Sam and let him know he is loved by You and by his family.

·         Bring Sue to a saving knowledge of Your love and grace.

I know when we’re praying, especially in public, it is hard to come up with the right words to convey all our desires for a person. So “be with” has become a catch-all phrase to fill the gap (and “bless” is right behind that in usage). I’m not sure how we can recognize answers to prayer if all we pray are vague generalities. But if we pray specifically and scripturally, it should become more evident how God is working to answer those prayers. It’s a bit like writing a strategic plan (something we’ve spent months on at our office). If a goal is not specific and measurable, how do you know if/when you’ve reached it?

One of the other comments Hybels made in his sermon series is that he finds it hard to concentrate on prayer unless he writes it out longhand. That’s something I’ve started doing recently for some of my prayers. I’ve been reading through the Psalms and when a verse catches my attention I write it down and then write a prayer based on the thoughts triggered by it. That’s not a substitute for praying on the go as needs come to mind, but I find that I am more likely to include praise and thanksgiving if I’m taking the time to write out my prayers.

I suspect we all need help in our prayer lives, and that’s probably why so many people won’t pray out loud. No matter how verbally adept we may or may not be, we can take comfort in the fact that “we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words” (Romans 8:26).

Singing the Truth

Do you have any hymns that just irk you? A few have come to my attention in recent weeks. They are hymns that are generally pretty good, with catchy tunes, but have just one phrase that totally destroys the message. When we sing them in church, I’ll often drop out on the troublesome line.

One song that I have a problem with is “At the Cross.” The verses written by Isaac Watts are great, but the refrain by Ralph E. Hudson has issues. “And now I am happy all the day!” Really?! I find that hard to believe. I haven’t observed any Christians that I believe could sing those words completely honestly, which is why I choose not to sing them. I think the hymn was better off without the chorus. As one blogger wrote, “The text and musical style of the refrain… are not well-suited to the soul-searching gravity of Watt’s text…” (http://drhamrick.blogspot.com/2009/01/alas-and-did-my-savior-bleed.html).

Another hymn that frustrates me is “I Must Tell Jesus” by Elisha Hoffman. Once again it is the last line that hinders the overall message, “Jesus can help me, Jesus alone.” It is true that Jesus can help, but rarely does He choose to do so apart from human agents. The Church is known as the Body of Christ for a reason—we all need one another. This hymn is on target when it says, “I cannot bear these burdens alone,” which is precisely why we need to be talking to our brothers and sisters in Christ, and not just assuming that God will answer our prayers privately and without anyone else being involved.

A third hymn, “Tell It to Jesus” by Jeremiah E. Rankin, has the same problem: “Tell it to Jesus alone.” I begin to wonder if some of the hymn writers just got tired of looking for a good rhyme and settled for words that are lacking in biblical depth. I also wonder if these indicators of “private faith” are reflective of the culture in which the hymns were written. All three of the men mentioned (not including Isaac Watts) were Americans writing in the late 1800s. American culture in general is individualistic, and that may well have deepened following the disruption of the Civil War, which certainly did not foster unity and trust.

Thankfully, there are a great number of hymns and choruses with solid theology, some centuries old and some newly written. Unfortunately, many churches are stuck with a very limited number of songs due to familiarity or perhaps laziness. And even more unfortunately, many church members don’t actually think much about the words they are singing. They either don’t know or don’t care if they sing something that is untrue and/or unscriptural. I’ll admit that for many years I haven’t paid much attention either. Only recently have I been more conscientious about knowing what I’m singing, and that’s probably because I’ve been thinking and writing more about specific subjects such as the Body of Christ. At a recent event I was observing a non-Trinitarian person as we were singing “Holy, Holy, Holy,” and I had to give them credit for not singing the last line, “God in three persons, blessed Trinity.” Since they didn’t believe that to be true, they weren’t going to pretend it was okay to sing it.

It’s usually up to the pastor or worship leader to evaluate the quality of the musical message, and they may not have the time to do so. I challenge you (and myself) to think about the words we sing. Are they biblical? Do I believe them? Am I being honest with myself and others by making these claims? I’d also challenge those who are involved in children’s ministry to think about the songs we are teaching our kids. (I personally have problems with “If you’re happy and you know it,” “Climb, climb up sunshine mountain,” and similar tunes.) Do we really want our children singing something unbiblical just because it has a catchy tune and fun motions?

“Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God” (Co. 3:16).

Suicide Facts

Since I’ve taken a break from tradition to focus on Mental Illness Awareness Week, I wanted to share the following “Ten Fables and Ten Facts about Suicide” and “Warning Signs to Watch For” from New Light on Depression: Help, Hope, & Answers for the Depressed & Those Who Love Them, by David Biebel and Harold Koenig (pp. 236-237). This is a helpful book despite the fact that it’s almost 10 years old. It is written for Christians, but has valuable information for anyone. Another good resource is http://www.save.org/

Statistics show that about 15 percent of clinically depressed persons will commit suicide. So it is essential that we know the facts.

Fable 1: People who talk about suicide do not commit suicide.
  Fact 1: 80 percent of those considering suicide do talk about it in one way or another.

Fable 2: Suicide happens without warning.
  Fact 2: Suicidal people give many clues of their intentions.

Fable 3: Suicidal people are fully intent on dying.
  Fact 3: Most are undecided but are willing to take a gamble that someone will discover their plans and intervene.

Fable 4: Once a person is suicidal, he is suicidal forever.
  Fact 4: Suicidal intentions usually are time-limited.

Fable 5: Improvement after suicidal crisis means the risk is over.
  Fact 5: Most suicides occur about three months after improvement begins, when a person has enough energy to act out his or her thoughts.

Fable 6: Suicide is more common among the rich.
  Fact 6: Suicide occurs in equal proportion throughout society.

Fable 7: Suicide is inherited or runs in families.
  Fact 7: Suicide is an individual pattern.

Fable 8: All suicidal patients are mentally ill.
  Fact 8: While extremely unhappy and perturbed prior to death by suicide, many who take their own life would not be judged mentally ill.

Fable 9: Deep religious faith makes suicide impossible.
  Fact 9: The despair and hopelessness accompanying severe depressive illness can undermine faith.

Fable 10: Caregivers (family or friends) can always prevent suicide.
  Fact 10: People intent on suicide may succeed even when friends and family do everything possible to prevent this outcome. When this happens, it is not the caregivers’ fault.”

Warning Signs to Watch For

• Expressions of helplessness or hopelessness
• Extreme withdrawal from friends, family, and usual activities
• Talking about suicide or ending it all
• Self-destructive or risk-taking behavior
• Giving away favorite possessions
• Sudden changes in behavior or mood
• Increasing use of alcohol or drugs
• Identification with someone who has committed suicide
• Preoccupation with thoughts of death
• Clear plans
• Previous suicide attempts