I’ve been doing a lot of reading
in recent weeks about our identity in Christ and the lies we tend to believe
instead. As I was thinking about it, I realized that subtle lies can slip into
our thinking over time without being noticed right away. In my own case, I
started learning about who I am in Christ when I was in college. It was a
relief to know that I was loved and accepted by God and it didn’t depend on my
performance or lack thereof. But I have to say that I’m not sure I ever really
believed all that to be true. Yes, it sounds good, but surely God expects me to
be working toward perfection anyway? I’ve always been a perfectionist, and even
if God doesn’t expect that from me, I expect it from myself. So are my
standards higher than God’s? There’s a scary thought.
I discovered that another lie
had snuck in as well. My beliefs slowly migrated—I am complete in Christ,
therefore my approval doesn’t come from other people, therefore I don’t need
other people. It started out true but ended upside down. That shift wasn’t
intentional by any means, though it was driven by a lot of other factors I
can’t go into. It’s funny how pride can manifest both as self-promotion and
self-protection depending on the circumstances.
One book that I should probably
reread every few years is The Search for
Significance, by Robert McGee. He begins by saying: “[If] we are honest
with ourselves, from time to time, we find the light being turned on in our
world, and we are amazed (and sometimes embarrassed) at what we see. It isn’t
that we don’t know that certain things are not right. We just don’t realize how
destructive these things are until the light comes on… It is difficult—if not
impossible—to turn on the light of objectivity by ourselves. We need guidance
from the Holy Spirit and usually the honesty, love, and encouragement of at
least one other person who is willing to help us…” (2-3).
The past few months have turned
on the light in my life, and I am convinced that God allows us to go through
difficult seasons in order to help us realize we can’t keep walking in the
dark. It’s been humbling to suddenly see the darkness for what it is, but even
more humbling to look back over the past couple decades and see how quickly the
light got turned out after prior “enlightenments.” It doesn’t take long to get
distracted by sin, the world’s definition of life, and busyness (even
ministry).
In thinking about the sermon on
Hebrews 12:1-2, I’m thankful that our “cloud of witnesses” doesn’t just include
those who have gone before us, but also those who are walking alongside us even
now. It’s easier (at least for me) to overlook the lives of the men and women
in the Bible than to try to ignore the people I see daily or weekly who want to
know “How are you really doing?” It
is encouraging to know that others have dealt with or are currently dealing
with the same struggles and are finding victory in Christ. As McGee writes,
“God’s love, expressed through His people and woven into our lives by His
Spirit and His Word, can, over a period of time, bring healing even to our
deepest wounds and instill within us an appropriate sense of self-worth” (7).
So when it comes to the question
of what we need to lay aside in order to run the race, several things come to
mind for me as well as for most of the people I know: pride (including
self-sufficiency, self-preservation, self-promotion), control, perfectionism,
seeking approval, apathy, avoidance, anger, blaming myself or others, false
guilt… The list of destructive thoughts, emotions, and behaviors could go on
and on. We’ve all got them, whether we’ve let the light shine on them or not.
Two books I’ve read recently
(McGee and also Redemption by Mike
Wilkerson) have made the point that sin is trying to fulfill real needs in
wrong ways. These are things we need to lay aside, but part of that process
will require figuring out what the real needs are (love, acceptance,
forgiveness, etc.) and understanding how God meets those needs in legitimate
ways. Without that, any effort to lay aside the sin is just going to leave us
empty and searching for something to fill that spot. Unfortunately, there
doesn’t seem to be any quick fix for our learned beliefs and behaviors. It took
a long time to internalize the lies, and now may take just as long to
internalize the truth. I’ll let you know when I’ve arrived, because the race is
still in progress! As many have reminded us—if you’re running the race and you
fall or get off course, you don’t go back to the starting line. You just get
up, turn back toward the finish line, and keep running.
Thursday, February 28, 2013
Friday, February 22, 2013
Christ Only
Since I’ve been busy this week and
haven’t done much writing, I thought I’d share an extended quote
that I read last night from The Christian’s Secret of a Happy
Life by Hannah Whitall Smith (1875).
This doesn’t need any explanation, and it's something I needed to be reminded of.
“You
are a child of God, and long to please Him. You love your divine
Master, and are sick and weary of the sin that grieves Him. You long
to be delivered from its power. Everything you have hitherto tried
has failed to deliver you: and now, in your despair, you are asking if
it can indeed be, as these happy people say, that Jesus is able and
willing to deliver you. Surely you must know in your very soul that
He is—that to save you out of the hand of all your enemies is, in
fact, just the very thing He came to do. Then trust Him. Commit your
case to Him in an absolute unreserve, and believe that He undertakes
it; and at once, knowing what He is and what He has said, claim that
He does even now save you. Just as you believed at first that He
delivered you from the guilt of sin because He said it, so now
believe that He delivers you from the power of sin because He says
it. Let your faith now lay hold of a new power in Christ. You have
trusted Him as your dying Saviour; now trust Him as your living
Saviour. Just as much as He came to deliver you from future
punishment did He also come to deliver you from present bondage. Just
as truly as He came to bear your stripes for you has He come to live
your life for you. You are as utterly powerless in the one case as in
the other. You could as easily have got yourself rid of your own
sins, as you could now accomplish for yourself practical
righteousness. Christ, and Christ only, must do both for you; and
your part in both cases is simply to give the thing to Him to do, and
then believe that He does it..." (54-55)
“Lord
Jesus, I believe that thou art able and willing to deliver me from
all the care and unrest and bondage of my Christian life. I believe
thou didst die to set me free, not only in the future, but now and
here. I believe thou art stronger than sin, and that thou canst keep
me, even me, in my extreme of weakness, from falling into its snares
or yielding obedience to its commands. And, Lord, I am going to trust
thee to keep me. I have tried keeping myself, and have failed, and
failed most grievously. I am absolutely helpless. So now I will trust
thee. I give myself to thee. I keep back no reserves. Body, soul, and
spirit, I present myself to thee as a piece of clay, to be fashioned
into anything thy love and thy wisdom shall choose. And now I am
thine. I believe thou dost accept that which I present to thee; I
believe that this poor, weak, foolish heart has been taken possession
of by thee, and that thou hast even at this very moment begun to work
in me to will and to do of thy good pleasure. I trust thee utterly, and
I trust thee now.” (55-56)
Amen!
Wednesday, February 13, 2013
People Who Need People
I’ve been realizing (again) the
fact that God created us as social beings. We need people even when we think we
don’t. We are made to live in fellowship with one another. The irony is that
people are also our greatest source of pain and suffering. People sin against
God; people sin against one another; people create cultures of sin. Our natural
tendency is to avoid things that can cause us harm. So it’s not surprising that
when we have been harmed by people we tend to avoid letting people get close to
us. I know this is more common for some people and some circumstances than it
is for others. Some of us are more prone to isolationism due to a host of
factors.
Think of Hannah in 1 Samuel 1.
She was despondent about her barrenness. Her husband basically told her to get
over it. In the temple she poured out her heart to God. Then when Eli the
priest found out her story, he blessed and encouraged her by joining in her
petition to God. It apparently didn’t require a long counseling session, but a
few words from someone who cared were enough to lift her spirits. In 1 Samuel
18 we find the story of David’s friendship with Jonathan. That relationship
helped to sustain David through difficult times, including threats from
Jonathan’s father. Centuries later in the Garden of Gethsemane ,
Jesus was comforted by the presence of Peter, James and John in the ultimate
sorrow of His impending death.
There are a few things I think
we can learn from these Scriptures and many others. First and foremost, as we
were reminded this Sunday from Ephesians 1, we are the Body of Christ. We can
be His hands to serve, His arms to hug, His ears to listen, and His eyes to see
those around us who need His care. Even though we may not be serving in a
formal capacity in the church, we each have other circles of friends, family,
and coworkers who need the touch of Christ through us. Whether we’re bringing a
meal to a shut-in, listening to a friend who’s going through a tough time, or
praying for a coworker, our task is just as important as the Sunday school
teacher or board chairman. We shouldn’t discount our service just because it
happens out of the public eye.
Secondly, we need to remember
that people don’t want to share their pain or difficulties in a way that makes
them vulnerable to more pain. Different settings are required for different
people. Some may be okay with sharing openly in a Sunday school class, some may
prefer a small group, but most people need those one-on-one relationships where
they can safely be open and honest. That’s where the Body of Christ comes into
play, with each person reaching out to someone else and building caring
relationships. The Kingdom
of God isn’t just a bunch
of churches, but many individuals.
The third lesson is for those
of us who are prone to isolation, and that is to seek out someone we can trust
and work to build one relationship at a time. It doesn’t happen overnight, and
there is risk inherent in any relationship. But the benefits can far outweigh
the risks if we keep at it. When you’re hurting, it’s easy to become myopic and
not even see the people around us who are willing and able to listen. It isn’t
even necessary that someone has all the answers so long as they hear us and
want to keep walking the road with us, and that’s what sharing the burden is
all about. Even professional counselors don’t have all the answers, though some
of them think they do.
I don’t have all the answers
either, but I hope that my perspective can encourage those who are like me, and
perhaps edify those who are different. The bottom line is that God made us so
that we need each other. We can help one another, encourage one another, serve
one another, teach one another, exhort one another, and love one another as we
continue this adventure called life.
Thursday, February 7, 2013
Untruths Learned in the Dark
I started thinking last night
about some of the things we learn while growing up that can lead us to believe
wrong things about God. These ideas come from our families, friends,
classmates, teachers, preachers, society, and numerous other sources. Even if
we know they are not true according to Scripture it can be hard to live in
light of the real truth. The following are just a few examples that came to
mind.
Untruth: God loves and accepts me if I perform up to His expectations.
Sources: Earn good grades; obey without question; don’t get into fights; be nice to your siblings; do your chores; graduate from high school/college; get a good job…
Truth: “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast” (Eph. 2:8-9). “I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you” (Jer. 31:3).
Sources: Earn good grades; obey without question; don’t get into fights; be nice to your siblings; do your chores; graduate from high school/college; get a good job…
Truth: “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast” (Eph. 2:8-9). “I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore I have continued my faithfulness to you” (Jer. 31:3).
Untruth: Happiness and peace are found in success and possessions.
Sources: Climbing the corporate ladder; finding the “perfect” house; higher education is necessary to get a “decent” job; the next job will be better…
Truth: “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places” (Eph. 1:3). “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you” (1 Thess. 5:16-18). “The joy of the Lord is your strength” (Neh. 8:10b).
Sources: Climbing the corporate ladder; finding the “perfect” house; higher education is necessary to get a “decent” job; the next job will be better…
Truth: “Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places” (Eph. 1:3). “Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you” (1 Thess. 5:16-18). “The joy of the Lord is your strength” (Neh. 8:10b).
Untruth: If I don’t fit in, there’s something wrong with me.
Sources: Girls must be “feminine” and boys must be “masculine”; you talk too much (or not enough); cliques; bullying; don’t make waves; follow the crowd…
Truth: “I praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made… Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in Your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them” (Ps. 139:14,16). “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them” (Eph. 2:10).
Sources: Girls must be “feminine” and boys must be “masculine”; you talk too much (or not enough); cliques; bullying; don’t make waves; follow the crowd…
Truth: “I praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made… Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in Your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them” (Ps. 139:14,16). “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them” (Eph. 2:10).
A couple others related to my
last blog--
Untruths: It’s not sin if you don’t get caught; it’s not sin if it doesn’t hurt anyone else; or conversely, I’ve sinned and therefore I am a failure and can’t do anything right.
Truth: “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Rom. 3:23). “Whatever does not proceed from faith is sin” (Rom. 14:23b). “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us” (1 Jn. 1:9-10).
Untruths: It’s not sin if you don’t get caught; it’s not sin if it doesn’t hurt anyone else; or conversely, I’ve sinned and therefore I am a failure and can’t do anything right.
Truth: “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Rom. 3:23). “Whatever does not proceed from faith is sin” (Rom. 14:23b). “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. If we say we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us” (1 Jn. 1:9-10).
My point in listing some of
these untruths is to get us (myself included) to think more clearly about what
we believe about God and why we believe it. A book I just started reading,
which I won’t disclose by name, makes the comment that our purpose in thinking
back over memories that can be painful or shameful is not for the memories
themselves, but so that we can evaluate what they taught us about God and
ourselves. Once we see the untruths for the lies they are, we can begin to
focus on the truth and let it saturate our thoughts and actions. But a lifetime
of wrong belief isn’t changed overnight. I’ve said it before—we need constant
reminders of the truth through Scripture, godly preaching and counsel, brothers
and sisters in Christ, etc.
I would suggest that we also need to consider how
our words and actions may be influencing someone else’s beliefs. Parents,
remind your kids that you love them even when they disobey. Friends, let your
friends know you appreciate them for who they are, not just what they do for
you. Youths, join the anti-bullying movement and be intentional about reaching
out to the rejected.
“Let us consider how to stir up
one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the
habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day
drawing near” (Heb. 10:24-25).
Sunday, February 3, 2013
Faith or Sin?
"For
whatever does not proceed from faith is sin" (Romans 14:23b). I
encountered this verse last week, not realizing at the time that it
would fall within the text for the sermon I heard this week. What
follows are some of my thoughts, which I believe parallel those we
heard at church.
The
book I was reading at the time was Complete
in Christ
by Bob George. He makes the statement, "Although the visible
evidence of sin in a person's life is expressed in many different
ways, the root of these sins is always the same--a heart of
unbelief." Following that he quotes Romans 14:23 and Hebrews
11:6- "Without faith it is impossible to please God." He
goes on to say, "Realizing that the root of all sin is unbelief
leaves the Christian with only one option: to turn from his unbelief
to Christ in faith. He cannot 'clean up' his unbelief; he can only
begin believing."
In
1 Corinthians 12, Paul reiterates what he wrote in Romans and he
says, "So whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all
to the glory of God" (12:31). Earlier in 1 Corinthians we read,
"Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy
Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for
you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body" (1
Cor. 6:19-20). What I hear God saying through these verses is that if
we do anything that is not clearly glorifying to God, it is sin.
As
we've been hearing and talking about the grey areas of faith, and
through other discussions related to sin, some things have come to my
attention as things I need to change in my life. It's not that they
are necessarily sinful in and of themselves, but I know that they are
not bringing glory to God and so for me they are sin and they can
also lead to other sins. One in particular is television. It has
become increasingly clear to me that I've given cable too much
control in my life. Even though I'm usually occupied with reading or
playing computer games, the TV has always been on in the background.
And at times I have sought out programs that I know I don't need to
be watching and I would be embarrassed if others knew what they were.
[A side note- even though I've called the cable company to downgrade
my service, they have failed to physically change my connection and
remove the unwanted channels. So now I have to make the decision to
disconnect completely in order to do what I know is right.]
Television isn't the only area I've needed to make changes, but it is
high on the list. Whatever doesn't glorify God is sin. That can be a
painful truth to accept.
Going
back to Bob George's comments that the root of all sin is unbelief,
that's something I've been wrestling with in recent weeks. I may have
mentioned before that I'd been taught in certain circles that the
Christian life is all about resting in who God says I am and
"reckoning" it to be true (to use Paul's language in Romans
4). While that sounds good, my experience is that it doesn't lead to
a changed life in the here and now. The implication is that if you
just believe hard enough, all sin and temptation will gradually
disappear and leave you holy and perfect in Christ. So if you are
still struggling with sin, you must not have enough faith... And that
makes it even harder to confess! If all it takes is belief, then why
are there so many commands given in the New Testament to those who
are supposedly believers such as:
- Romans 6:12- "Let not sin therefore reign in your mortal body, to make you obey its passions."
- Colossians 3:5- "Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry."
- Hebrews 12:1b- "Let us lay aside every weight, and sin which clings so closely, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us."
- James 4:7- "Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil and he will flee from you."
- 2 Peter 3:14b- "Be diligent to be found by Him without spot or blemish and at peace."
- Romans 13:12-14- "...Let us cast of the works of darkness and put on the armor of light... put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires."
- Ephesians 6:11- "Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil."
Why
would we need to be clothed in armor if our only role is to "rest
and reckon"? Obedience is not passive, it is a battle! The flesh
will not easily surrender control of its old territory. It's not that
God requires our obedience in order to make us acceptable to Him, and
we can't earn the salvation and love He has already given us. But we
can certainly miss out on many blessings and joy if we are not
seeking to be conformed to His perfect will. As in Romans 12:1-2,
transformation is an ongoing process of presenting ourselves to God,
seeking His will, and aligning ourselves to it. If we aren't actively
engaged in the process, then we will become conformed to this world.
There
appears to be a circle that repeats over and over in our lives--
abiding in Christ requires knowing His will and obeying it; obedience
requires active participation in eliminating sin and replacing it
with holiness; eliminating sin requires self-control; self-control is
part of the Fruit of the Spirit; the Fruit of the Spirit requires
abiding in Christ; and we're back where we started. Where faith comes
in, and I think what Bob George was getting at, is that we need to
believe: 1) God loves us, 2) God has set us free from the dominion of
sin, and 3) He has given us the power to resist temptation and follow
Him.
As
Paul said in Colossians 2:20-23, just creating a set of laws to
follow does not make us any better at obeying. The whole premise of
Romans is that the law only served to show us what sin is. But in
Christ, "I can do all things through Him who strengthens me"
(Philippians 4:13); and "His divine power has granted to us all
things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of
Him who called us to His own glory and excellence" (2 Peter
1:3). These are the things I have to cling to by faith when
temptation assails me. "For I know that nothing good dwells in
me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right,
but not the ability to carry it out" (Romans 7:18). I tried for
years to get by on my own willpower, with very little success. And
even now, it is easy to fall into the trap of relying first and
foremost on my will.
What
is required is a change of heart that only God can give. "Create
in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me...
Restore to me the joy of Your salvation, and uphold me with a willing
spirit" (Psalm 51:10,12). I want to obey God fully so that I may
always know the joy that He gives. I take heart that even the
disciples didn't have this down pat. "Watch and pray that you
may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the
flesh is weak" (Matthew 26:41). And though I try and fail, I
trust that God still loves me and keeps forgiving me, and that He is
at work in my life in ways that I can't always see or comprehend.
“Now to Him who is able to keep you
from stumbling, and to present you blameless before the presence of
His glory with great joy, to the only God, our Savior, through Jesus
Christ our Lord, be glory, majesty, dominion, and authority, before
all time and now and forever. Amen.” -Jude 24-25
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